So an alert reader tipped me off to this story a few days ago, and I found the note on facebook. This took place last week, and the letter is written by junior William Penner-Hahn. The excellent letter he wrote to Mr. White follows, along with a brief Q & A after that.
To Principal Michael E. White,
I know what you see when you look at me. You see a smartass
kid who is trying to make your job difficult.
You see a kid who wants to make a big deal out of
everything, and who needs to be dealt with. In short,
you see what you want to see. I would like to tell
you what I see when I look at myself.
When I look at myself, I see a sensitive kid that
tries hard and attempts to be respectful. I see a
good kid whose only crime is asking questions, a skill
that school has nurtured in us from day one. I see
someone who is disrespected, but tries not to let it
bother him too much. I see an A and B student who is
at school to learn.
So, about what happened today. I was on my knees on
a bleacher, talking to my friends and generally
minding my own business. One of the community
assistants came up and told me I had to sit down. I
asked him, fairly politely I think, why that was the
rule. He told me that it was just the rule and not to
ask questions. I asked again, because I have been
taught that asking questions is important, and indeed
the foundation of our society. When he told me that
it was so people didn’t slip and fall, I told him,
again fairly politely, that I didn’t see that as any
more likely than slipping and falling anywhere else.
I then proceeded to ask the community assistant where
the rule was written, as I in fact did not recall
reading this any where. I have since looked it up,
and after extensive searching on the school website, I
found one line that says “student will sit at tables
of their choice but must remain seated. No standing
around in groups, moving from table to table, etc.” I
personally do not view sitting on one’s knees on a
bleacher to be in violation of this rule, but the fact
remains that I merely asked where it was written. I
do not think that this justifies your later reaction.
When asked where the rule was written, the community
assistant said “You want to know where the rule is
written? I’ll show you!” He then took me to the
center of the gymnasium and proceeded to get you,
Principal White. I was standing there, and looked
over at my friends, who waved at me. I waved back,
and gave them a thumbs up. Yes, I may have made a
little fun out of it, but the fact is, and those who
have known me for a long time can attest to this, that
if I don’t laugh about it, I’ll probably end up crying
about it.
At this point, you came up to me. I waved at you,
without any intention of disrespect. You said “You
think this is funny? You think this is some kind of
joke?!?” I then tried to tell you what had happened,
but you just yelled at me. I don’t know if you ever
actually attempted to determine what had happened,
much less ask me for my side of the story. I tried to
ask you what the rule was, and you yelled “I’m not
going to argue with you!” I’d like to take this
opportunity to point out that you were the only one
being argumentative.
I again tried to be reasonable, speaking in as low a
voice I could muster with my somewhat flustered state
of mind, and also the lowest voice that could still be
heard over you. I tried to tell you that I wasn’t
arguing, and you waved your walkie-talkie at me, poked
me in the chest, and told me to “shut my mouth.” Then
you, at the top of your lungs, told me to get out and
leave. I asked you if I could at least retrieve my
belongings, and started in that direction. You and
the community assistant shoved me and forcibly
restrained me from retrieving my belongings. You
yelled the phrase “Leave now or you’re leaving with
the police” at me numerous times.
At this point, I left. You may remember the entire
gymnasium applauding at this point. I know that when
you look at this, you see a bad seed yucking it up for
his friends. When I look at this, I see a student
body, consistently disrespected and treated like
criminals, reacting naturally to an oppressive
situation.
So who was really punished here? It certainly wasn’t
me. I missed some classes, and this is bad, but I am
capable of making up the work. I certainly hope it
wasn’t you. No, the real victim here was
student-faculty relations. I value the positive
relationship I have with my counselor, my teachers, my
class principal. I value their openness and
understanding. How can you expect to be a good
principal if you do not offer the same openness and
respect? I should think it would be difficult.
In conclusion, I felt incredibly abused and
disrespected. I came to school to learn, and by
sending me home, you prevented that possibility. You
verbally abused me, physically shoved me, and
threatened police action for merely attempting to ask
a question.
Principal White, you have said that you enjoy a
hands-on leadership style, and that you value
openness. If pushing and shoving is your idea of
hands-on, and verbal abuse and threats are your ideas
of openness, then I am afraid you are sorely mistaken.
So, I ask you, when does this hands on leadership and
openness begin? I certainly have not seen it yet.
Respectfully yours,
William Penner-Hahn
P.S. Let’s meet and talk about it. I’m ready and
open. The ball’s in your court.
Q & A:
Gold Lion: Did you actually send the letter? If so, did he reply/do you anticipate a reply?William Penner-Hahn: I did give the letter to his secretary at the end of lunch the day after the icident occured. In the middle of fifth hour, I was pulled out of class (missing Chem Lab, no less) and taken to his office, where I waited until partway into sixth hour. I met with him, and he was reasonable (for once), but if a long letter is what it takes to get him to be reasonable, then I for ome think that's kind of ridiculous. He did apologize, which is more than I expected. However, his apology was more of the "I'm sorry you felt that way" type. In addition, when asked the rationale for removing me from school without taking down any information, he A: blamed Dr. Kinel for not taking down any information and B: justified it as being an "emergency suspension" because I was being insubordinate. I don't know when students asking questions became insubordination and an emergency, but as I was told by the "community assistant": don't ask questions, just do what I say.
Also, even though an apology was made, it does not appear that Mr. White has changed his behavior, as evidenced by his announcement that thursday that students will be kicked out of school for "malingering in the hallways."
GL: Were you eating in the gym for the first time because of the new policy? Do you agree with that policy?WPH: No, that was not my first time eating in the gym, I eat there most days because I do not enjoy eating in my car everyday, as I do have in fact more than 3 friends that want to talk to at lunch, and also because gas is expensive, and the car is cold without the heat on.
And no, I do not agree with the policy, because I do not think that a school of nearly 3000 students should be forced into two relatively small areas, consituting a near fire hazard, or off campus and in the parking lot, which as the former principal pointed out, is rife with crime.
GL: Did Mr. White actually make contact with you (whether it was with a walkie talkie or a poke in the chest or whatever)?WPH: Mr. White did make contact with me with a poke in the chest and by forcibly restraining me from retrieving my belongings.
GL: Have you spoken to any teachers about this?WPH: I have not spoken to my teachers about this except to give them a brief summary of why I was absent from school. The one teacher that I told in more detail, Ms. Fox (a very nice lady), acted as though I was merely a smartass, which is easy to say if you are a staff member and do not see this side of Mr. White.
GL: Have you spoken to the superintendent (or any school board members) about this, or do you intend to?WPH: I have not yet spoken to any school board members about this, although I do plan on doing so.
GL: Do you think that you could've handled the situation differently?WPH: I think that I probably could have handled it differently, but I still do not think I did anything wrong. As a student and a minor (that is, disrespected and not treated as having valid opinions) it is difficult to remain reasonable in the face of verbal abuse from staff members, although I did my best. However, as principal, Mr. White's job is to remain reasonable and fair in all circumstances, and he is not cut out for the job if he cannot do so.
GL: Do you think the school/district should respond to this, and, if so, how?WPH: I think the school and possibly district should respond to this, but I am not sure how. Parents/the school board can at least censure/reprimand Mr. White, something that students are not capable of. However, a reprimand is not what I desire. I want Mr. White to commit to a change in his handling of the school and his treatment of students.
A couple other things: the school's job is to teach kids and to keep them safe. By sending me home without any genuine procedure, and only a short talk with my mom on the phone by Dr. Kinel (which I initiated), they made both of those impossible. In addition, the next day I received an automated call: "A student in your household was absent hours 4 through 7 on tuesday..."
One last point: It's easy for adults to look at this and think that kids are rebelling for the sake of it. That is truly not the case. I ask any adults reading this to put themselves in our shoes-and none of that "In my day" BS. It's not easy being a high schooler, even without an unreasonable principal. I know you think we're overreacting, but try to remember what it was like, and try and remove your nostalgia filter first.
I find all of this pretty ridiculous. One of the biggest issues at this school is that every problem is the fault of the student. Mr. White will admit that mistakes are made, but it's almost always a student's fault; if not, it's Kinel's fault. He made a
huge mistake here, and he needs to own up to it. And since I don't have enough faith in him to do so, I plan on writing to the school board. Even if he won't respect us, he'll have to respect the school board.